OVERVIEW INTERPRETATION
When your male partner appears in a dream, he may represent the relationship or he may represent your own male side, that is, your Yang, your outer world, your left brain qualities. Let’s look at each possibility.
You are in the front yard, on view to the public, perhaps, in comparison to being in the back yard. If we’re taking the relationship perspective first, this dream could be about the ‘front’ you show to the world or about how comfortable you do or don’t feel about your relationship in public.
When you think of his ex-girlfriend, which three words spring to your mind to describe her approach to life? Write them down. You might have, for example, ‘clever, outgoing, permissive’. Then write down the opposites, for example, ‘not clever, private, clinging’.
Do any of these six words describe you or issues that concern you about your relationship? If so, then these are the issues your dream is addressing. For example, if there have been issues of how outgoing or private you or your fiancé are, then your dream might introduce the ex-girlfriend as a perfect symbol threatening the relationship.
When your fiancé says, “She can’t live without me,” YOU are really saying, in your dream, “I believe my fiancé is more drawn to outgoing people and I am afraid I’ll lose him”. A dream is ALWAYS about you the dreamer – it is about your beliefs, not about your fiancé’s beliefs.
She drives by in an old car. A car in a dream can symbolise drive. Perhaps you feel your relationship is driven, in some areas, by issues relating back to the ex-girlfriend, issues that you feel intrude on the present. I’m wondering if the bicycle symbolises a cycle (going round in circles, full cycle) especially as you try to cycle to her house, which is going back to the past. Does your relationship go through cycles and do you feel these cycles are related to either your fiancé’s previous relationship or your feelings of jealousy about the ex-girlfriend, or competition with her?
Now let’s look at your dream from the second possibility, the one where your fiancé represents your outer world. Now, stick with the same set of six words you came up with for the ex-girlfriend because they probably describe her as a symbol quite accurately. Let’s stick with the same example, that she represents levels of outgoing versus privacy. Where, in your outer world, (work, most likely), do you feel issues of outgoing versus privacy are threatening the status quo? Do you tend to go round in cycles or circles at work, or in your career? Is it YOU who is still driven by the old car, still attracted to where you were at over ten years ago? Is it you who can’t let go of the past? Or do you feel people at work “can’t live without you”, making it difficult on yourself to delegate?
DREAM ALCHEMY PRACTICE
Dialogue:
Your dialogue is between you and the old car. Start with you saying, “How are you feeling today?” and see what the old car automatically answers. Keep it going for 20 minutes.
How to do this:
Give yourself no longer than 20 minutes. When you do this exercise do NOT think! Don’t plan ahead. Just let whatever happens happen. Let the two entities speak to each other on paper using whatever words come up. It’s a bit like writing a film script or play – but without the brain being involved.
How does this work?
By not thinking, by keeping the words flowing, you are letting your right brain and unconscious mind do most of the work. They created the original dream so they know what these symbols mean for you. They will reveal. You will be surprised.
More details on Dialogue as a Dream Alchemy Practice in: “Dream Alchemy”, by Jane Teresa Anderson, pages 321-4 and 333.
Jane Teresa Anderson
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