Author

Subject: Estranged Sister

Sandy30_10

16:31 20/02/2003 

Mum and I were walking through a busy city area that might have been Toorak, Melbourne, and she was picking up rubbish on the street.

I thought to warn her as she wasn't wearing gloves, but didn't. Next my sister Sharon and I are walking through an unknown suburban area that also looked like Melbourne, but Sharon was 6-9 years old.

She also started to pick up rubbish and put it in a plastic bag. I cautioned her and she cut me short, saying "Too late". She'd been grazed by a large needle, probably 2-3mm in diameter.

I was worried, but she seemed unfazed. At this stage she'd reverted to her current age. I told her I knew of someone nearby and we went to her house. They weren't home, but I seemed to know how to get in, even though this person was just an acquaintance.

We got cleaned up. I remember washing off mud. We broke the needle carefully in two and deposited it in a sharps bin they had in the bathroom, though the end was still sticking out.

Everyone from the household then came home at once and I started to explain to my friend (who was in real life, a total stranger to me) why we were there and she told me not to worry. We went into the lounge where we made some small talk with about 4-5 guys, presumably boyfriends of the girls who lived there. I noticed they were ogling Sharon.

Eventually, I said, "Everyone, this is my sister Sharon", and the guys immediately moved around her to say hello. I later got everyone's attention again and told them about the needle we'd left in the bin and what had happened. I thought that being a large needle there'd be less chance of it being infected. Nobody made any comment. They just quickly made excuses and left the room.

Note:

My sister and I had a quite a close relationship till July 2002 in Melbourne, where a trivial incident put us on non-speaking terms. It was never addressed until late January this year when I received a letter from her stating very little about the initial problem, but at least 7 pages of every fault she could find in me, dating all the way back to childhood. This wounded me deeply, but rather than reacting, I thought I would leave things go for a while. I hadn't thought of her for the last couple of days till I'd had this dream last night.

I probably need to add that my sister and I look very different. She has no trouble keeping slim and gorgeous, and I've always been overweight. I have been secretly jealous of that.

Dream edited for easier reading - JT, 2005

Read the original thread or Jane Teresa's view.

Jane Teresa Anderson

17:06 21/02/2003 

Hi Sandy,

I only have a minute here today, but thought I'd start this one rolling and then maybe others can reply too.

I'm seeing the needle in your dream as a pun on 'needling' ... something that is needling you and causing you pain. Of course this may well be the unfinished business with your sister.

The dream shows you (think of all people in your dream as representing your own various beliefs, feelings, experiences and so on) ready to start clearing up the 'garbage' (the messy unresolved business) but not being too sure about handling the really potentially painful stuff (the needles).

As you saw the needle as 2 - 3 mm, have a think about how far back the needling/pain might go. Were you 2 - 3 when Sharon was born, what happened 2 - 3 years (or months) ago, or what happened when you were 23?

Just some beginnings - I really have to fly!

Hope this helps,

Jane Teresa

Beth

21:38 21/02/2003 

Hi Sandy,

I go along with what Jane Teresa says - something has been needling you for sure. You mentioned that you are aware of feeling jealous of her for her appearance. Are they needles of jealousy perhaps injuring your relationship with her?

In addition to focusing on the ages and/or time frames Jane Teresa mentioned,I think it might also help you decode the dream if you recall the feelings that occurred throughout.

For example, when you were clearing up the rubbish off the streets how did you feel. Were you horrified at the rubbish? Were you sad? You say you were worried about your sister, what were you worried about? What did you feel when all the guys were ogling her? How did you feel when they made no comment? How did you feel when they left the room?

The dream finishes without a satisfactory conclusion. This sort of mirrors what has happened in your waking life doesn't it? Things are still up in the air, nothing has been resolved.

The dream seems to be addressing your relationship with your sister and also, as is the way of dreams and their symbolism, addresses the relationship you have with yourself.

Also, can your remember if anything important happened for you when your were aged between 6-9, or in 1969. Your unconscious may be inviting you to look back a bit for the source of the current conflict.

May your dream bring you light, Beth.

sandy30_10

22:02 21/02/2003 

wow - my sister was born when I was 3, she was born in 1969. I was 23 when I moved out of home, the same year I started my career and also met my husband to be. 2-3 months ago was Xmas - I was very hurt that Sharon did not visit while we were at our parents' house which was the usual family tradition. I had been ready to sort out the original problem for months, from the time I knew I'd upset her. I wanted to meet face to face, but she wanted to write a letter, and also wanted me to write a reply. Now, while I'm ready to sort out the 'garbage', the painful stuff (what she wrote in the letter) is what's holding me back. I know I should forgive, but it's taking time, and she has a lot of unresolved childhood issues she needs to face up to. Beth - re. rubbish. I wasn't concerned about the rubbish, there wasn't a lot of it. I was worried that Sharon may have contracted a disease from the needle re. the guys - in the dream I was jealous that they were interested in her. re. the 'no comment' - I felt that they were embarassed or that I was somehow invading their privacy, knowing they had a sharps bin in the bathroom. By leaving the room I felt they were avoiding any awkward questions.

sandy30_10

22:07 21/02/2003 

Thank you Jane and Beth for your great interpretations ... I knew it had to have more depth than what I saw on the surface!

I don't know whether this has anything to do with the dream (esp after Jane said all the people in the dream have to do with me) but I've felt my mother has been making excuses for my sister's behaviour through the whole ordeal. Thanks again - I'm so glad I tracked this site down!

Gloria

19:18 26/02/2003 

Hi Sandy, Isn't the dream process so fascinating? Not only were you given the dream but also the means to help you understand it.

I lucked onto this site about 8 months ago and joined the member's forum just before my marriage broke up. My dreams and the help I've received in working through them has just been phenomenol.

I too had an estrangement from one of my sisters. It lasted many years and I still don't really understand what happened except that our family life didn't foster good relations.

I was greatly pained by the estrangement and eventually was able to reach out to my sister and we reconciled over a year ago. I am so thankful to have her back in my life.

She is still not able to reconnect with all family members but I hold out hope. It creates an incredibly strain and awkwardness for the entire family when these situations occur. I wish you all the best.

Love, Gloria

luciano

01:21 01/03/2003 

hi SANDY ABOUT YUOR DREAM HAD IT BE MY I WUOLD SEE IN IN THIS WAY. THE MOTHER IS YOUR SISTER , THE NEEDLE BECAUSE IS BIG IS THE PAINS THAT YOUR SISTER GAVE YOU IN THE 7 PAGES ,WHEN YOU DID SEE HER YOUNG 6/9 YEAR THAT WAS THE WAY THAT A YOUNG GIRL WOULD BEHAVE, FOR WHAT ISTHE RUBISH BAG ,YOUR WILL FORGIVE YOUR SISTER PUTTING AVERYTHING IN THE BAG , FOR THE REST IS THAT YOU TELLING JANE OYUR DREAM AND PROBLEM TO FIND A REASON FOR THE DIFERANCE PERSONALITY BECAUSE IS YOUR SISTER PROBABELY YOU SHOULD THINK MORE OF YOURSELF HOW TO DO BUT YOOU STILL LOVE YOUR SISTER GOD BLESS YOU LUCIANO

2008-2010

Jane Teresa's View

Jane Teresa Anderson

Overview Interpretation & Dream Alchemy Practice suggestion

JANE TERESA'S
COMMENTS
Please see Jane Teresa’s replies (in turquoise) in the original discussion thread above.

JANE TERESA'S
INTERPRETATION & DREAM ALCHEMY PRACTICE
Jane Teresa's interpretation and suggested dream alchemy practice will be added here during 2008-2010.

This is one of 500 dreams Jane Teresa is interpreting for this Dream Index.

You can read the interpretations as Jane Teresa completes them by subscribing (free) to our RSS Feed.

Thank you for your patience during this major web development.

You can consult with Jane Teresa or her Dream Team and receive your interpretation by email within five working days.