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Subject: Family...

Scarlett

21:55 05/02/2003 

I planned to go to North America for a while. Originally I wanted to meet my boyfriend there. My sister accompanied me for some days to go to New York and I would move on then and she would go back.

But then my boyfriend told me that he cannot come because he is saving the money to go to Austria (my home) and then I did not like to go to this trip anymore.

I packed my things but I did not feel happy. We did not go on time to the terminal and missed the plane, but we did not worry about this.

So I went with my sister to a travel agency and we searched there on the Internet for other times to fly on the same day. Then my sister did something that she usually never does: She went to the travel agency woman and said she wants to phone. She phoned the airline and was very strict. She insisted on getting a flight on the same day and said that we postponed the flight already.

She succeeded and we got another flight on this day. I thought in my dream: "Look what she can do. She can say what she wants and is successful."

I was happy with this because normally I have to do these things alone. Then we went to the terminal and my mother wanted me to repack the things. I did but was a little in a bad mood again.

Dream edited for easier reading - JT, 2005

Jane Teresa Anderson

18:24 06/02/2003 

Hi Scarlett,

You'd love being in the Members' Forum where every part of your dream is dissected .. and more!

In your dream, your sister speaks up for herself and you admire this. In contrast, when your mother, in your dream, asks you to do something you obviously do not want to do (it results in a bad mood), you still do it. You don't speak up for yourself as your sister did.

So, one dynamic your dream highlights is the "speak up versus do-what-you're-told" issue.

As you say, your sister's attitude in the dream is different to her attitude in waking life. In the same way, our dreams can encourage us to take a different attitude in waking life. What we (or another character) can do in our dreams successfully can be translated into waking life success.

There's far more in your dream, Scarlett, but this is a starting point.

I wonder if the 'New' in 'New York' is suggestive of new ways?

Jane Teresa

Scarlett

21:18 07/02/2003 

Thank you very much, Jane. I think these are some good ideas. What is strange for me is that I always thought of myself as a person who is saying very much what she wants - and I normally do this. But in a way - especially with my family - I act more like a rebel (which has nothing to do which speaking-up for myself, I know) and I feel easily guilty and agressive. I don`t know how to solve this, but maybe my dreams will give me a hint!

The new ways...well, I have to make big decisions about new ways in the future and at the moment the easiness to go the new ways has gone a little bit...

Thanks a lot for your help!

Scarlett

Jane Teresa Anderson

09:21 08/02/2003 

Hi Scarlett,

Thank you for your feedback.

It's often true that we are different with our family than we are with others, often reverting to childhood/ teenage patterns of communication and ways of being.

There are many ways to solve this through working with your dreams. In particular, there are dream alchemy practices including methods for 'giving back the belief'.

You might like to buy a copy of Dream Alchemy to discover more about this. Or, if you become an Annual Member, you'll receive a free gift copy of Dream Alchemy in any case, delivered to your street address.

Keep up the good work,

Jane Teresa