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Subject: engagement

doodle

02:54 27/02/2000 

I am with the guy that I am dating in real life. In the first part I am with him and there are a bunch of kids around us: just random kids and teenagers following us around.

We are running down a hallway to get away from them and I open a door and we duck into it and finally get away from them.

In the room there is nothing but us. There is no furniture or anything else. We have a few little cute moments in there and he stops it saying he respects me and doesn't want it to go to far. He says that he loves me, but I don't say it back.

Then we are in a restaurant for our engagement party. All of our family and friends are there and we are sitting together, but we don't really say anything to each other. When we do it is just kind of casual conversation and joking around.

Then one of his ex-girlfriends shows up. He talks to her for a second and blows her off and starts talking to me.

Then we are at his house with his family and are watching movies, only we aren't sitting next to each other. We are across the room from each other. A couple of times he tries to get the girl next to me to go do stuff for him, and I knew that it was so she would get up and he could steal her seat. This goes on for a while. We go outside and we keep trying to chase everyone off.

Lastly we are outside at a fountain and he is standing on the edge. Some girl comes up and tries to give him a pin. He takes it, but refuses to put it on. I liked the pin and tried to get him to put it on and he still refused. Finally I put it on him and he left it for a second and then took it off. We are wrestling around and goofing off.

Dream edited for easier reading - JT, 2005

Jane Anderson

10:17 28/02/2000 

Hi Doodle

Yes - it is a long dream reflecting many issues that you are going through at the moment. I'll start with a couple of thoughts and I'm sure others will respond to the rest:

Firstly, while your dream may be about your relationship with this man, it is more likely to be a dream about yourself.

The man may be in the dream to represent 'relationship' or he may be there to represent your relationship with the 'world'. Our male partner will often turn up in dreams to symbolise our 'animus', our 'Yang', our 'left brain', our outer world ... (all much the same thing in dream terms). So it is important to look at how you relate to this man in the dream and to ask yourself how this helps you to understand issues you are relating to (or trying to relate to) in your 'outer world' right now.

For example, at the start, you found yourselves surrounded by kids and teenagers and, to escape them, you ran down a hallway. Now, if this dream is about your actual relationship with this man, then it suggests that the aspects of yourself/himself that are still 'kids' or 'teenagers' at heart are possibly getting in the way of the development of your relationship. Thoughts, feelings, experiences, attitudes and conditionings that you/he had as teenagers may be rearing their heads and getting in the way of the more mature development of the relationship. (This is a normal part of most relationships, especially early on, as each partner has to work through old ways of relating to the other in mirror reflection of the struggles of earlier relationship with parents.)

However, if the dream was more about you and less about the actual relationship, then you might like to ask which attitudes or thoughts of yours - (which were appropriate when you were a kid or teenager) - are still operating at some level and not giving you full freedom to develop your relationship and plans with the outer world.

Escaping down the hallway was significant, as hallways tend to come up in dreams to symbolise transition and birth (like travelling down the birth canal to be born: a memory we must all carry, especially judged by the number of times it recurs in dreams in this way). So escaping down the hallway perhaps symbolised, in your dream, a readiness for a 're-birth', leaving behind old attitudes and aspects of 'being a child' and moving ahead into a new world.

What do you feel about this, Doodle?

Over to everyone else too. By the way, EVERYTHING helps - you don't need to be a professional dream interpreter to comment, ask questions, suggest and help a dreamer to find answers ...

Jane Anderson