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Subject: Husband cheating

Lynn

20:28 11/10/1999 

I was on a driving trip with my husband and brother-in-law. We stopped for lunch, and I became distracted in the store buying two greeting cards.

All of the clerks had disappeared. Stupidly, instead of leaving, I waited.

When the clerks came back, I was angry and yelled at them, eventually not buying either card.

I stormed out to the van and discovered my husband was there with an ex-girlfriend, holding hands. I was angry, but decided to go along on the trip anyway, knowing he would eventually become disillusioned with her and come back to me.

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I've dreamed for the past two nights of my husband was cheating on me.

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Carole

08:12 12/10/1999 

Dear Lynn

Hi. Your dream to me seems to be centred around your relationship with your husband. In the dream you are driving with your husband and brother-in-law (having both brothers together may reflect the male characteristics predominant in his family). You stop for a meal. We can feed ourselves in many ways: spiritually, emotionally, mentally as well as physically, and you may well have wanted to feed your relationship in the dream.

How do you do this? By going into a department store to buy greetings cards. In other words, you are trying to communicate with your husband, but you become frustrated when your efforts are thwarted because, despite waiting, no clerks are present to make the exchange. Communication is an exchange, and I wonder if you have been waiting for your husband to respond to your efforts to greet (welcome, communicate) with him.

You become angry in the dream and end up leaving the store without either card. In other words, perhaps you feel, instead of getting closer, your anger/frustration is preventing you from getting through to him. YOu feel like giving up.

YOu return to the van to discover your husband with an ex-girlfriend, holding hands. I am just wondering whether the ex-girlfriend is the 'girl you used to be'. Perhaps the relationship is evolving and you may well be feeling he loved the girl you were but there is some difficulty in the relationship as it is at the moment.

However, the dream ends optimistically in that although you are angry with him, you are willing to go along the trip anyway. You are willing to 'ride it out' because you know that he will become disillusioned with the memory of who you were, and will learn to appreciate and love once more the woman you have become.

These are just ideas... but I wonder if they resonate?

Best wishes

Lynn

09:04 12/10/1999 

I'm mulling this over, but I'm not sure this dream has to do with my husband directly. Things have been quite good with him. Do you have other thoughts?

Peta

13:34 12/10/1999 

Lyn - Can you identify any areas in your life where you (the conscious you ) are not being true to your inner knowing? - perhaps an old habit that you had dropped some time ago, but have recently revived. Perhaps a temporary return to old ways. Does this help? Peta

Janelle

17:22 12/10/1999 

Lyn have you been experiencing difficulty in expressing yourself? Like others are thwarting your efforts and you are feeling kind of frustrated? What's at the seat of your frustration and anger? What may you be feeling sad about? Is someone else or others controlling a current venture you are on and not including you or valuing your input?? Just some thoguhts to muse over...

regards, janelle

Lynn

18:55 14/10/1999 

I really appreciate your efforts here. I'm really having a hard time figuring this one out. I think you must be right about the returning to an old habit, I just can't think of what. I'm actually having no difficulties expressing myself for the first time in years.

I have something else I remembered about this dream. At the end, we went to a hotel- all four of us. Because my husband was rooming with his new girlfriend, I stayed in a room upstairs with his brother (separate beds). I was laughing because I watched my husband's girlfriend carry in loads and loads of stuff which he had to carry up the stairs (their room was on the floor below mine). She was really superficial and I could see that he was already tiring of it.

Maybe I've been having trouble with this dream because it's more positive than I'd originally thought. Like letting go of a clingy, superficial part of myself that resides in lower levels. in trade for a higher level of consciousness and knowing my "male" part would join me later.

I think you're right about the frustration and anger. I've been very frustrated with myself because the pace of my creative urges (new career) don't match my expectations of myself (that "old habit" you mentioned!). But I keep forgetting that the time I've spent improving myself hasn't been wasted, even if not economically productive.

Wow! Sometimes it just all comes together when you're typing a reply! Thanks guys!!

Janelle

16:07 15/10/1999 

Lynn, a hotel is temporary accommodation whilst you are in transit or on your journey. They stayed in the room BELOW yours which is significant too. The girlfriend has lots of baggage but you are travelling lighter. Like you are evolving and have transcended what was before. I'm also wondering about the significance of your own masculine and feminine sides here. Balancing what was formerly quite imbalanced. Once perhaps your masculine side was stronger, more in control, more dominant. Now perhaps your female side has evolved to the point of being "amused" at your old ways. You wouldn't do it like that again - be so dependent, have so many expectations, succumb to socially defined roles, merge your identity to a point of self-denial. The separate beds in your "higher" room is interesting too.

regards, janelle

Lynn

17:20 15/10/1999 

Thanks Janelle, I have to admit, I have been pretty amused with what I was, and how I let it dominate me. You may be interested to know that I've been wrestling with career options (masculine) lately, and my baggage was definately holding me back!

Thanks

Janelle

13:56 21/10/1999 

It is interesting isn't it! It seems that your dream highlighted a new balance between your energies. "You" rise beyond and above the old you. You don't necessarily let the male lead anymore nor react to it in the same way. The two energies recline beside each other in a higher space, connected equally side by side with healthy space between you(the single beds). A picture of equality, balance, respect and transcendence. I hope it is as nice as that!

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