In my dream my children and I were going on vacation.....who knows where. We were at someone's home (I don't know who) and a man came into the home that looked like a mob leader. He told one of his men to get his gun and then he carried my 12 yr old son into a bedroom and shot him. He told us to leave and then he walked out of the home. I ran and looked into the bedroom where my son was and saw him laying there dead with a pillow over his head and blood everywhere. I could seem my son's tongue hanging out and his eyes were bulging. I woke up very distressed and can't seem to get the picture of my son out of my head now. What does this mean? I know I don't want my son dead.....I love him very much and this has me really stressed out.
Geoffo
13:26 20/09/2002
Thanks for sharing this dream, Bobbe.
As someone who has lost a child by separation recently, I can imagine the distress of the dream scene you've described. I'm not expertly adept at dream interpretation myself, but to attempt to reduce your anxiety, I'll make some initial comments.
The dream may be less distressing to you if you consider that elements in dreams tend to be symbolic of aspects of yourself and your psyche and houses in dreams tend to be symbolic of the mind (if I remember that correctly).
So the mob leader and your son may be representative of aspects of your psyche - you might like to consider what they could be (if others don't come after me and make more specific suggestions...). The bedroom is a more secluded room in the house, so this confrontation (the shooting) happens in a 'secluded room of the psyche', which is then brought into consciousness (you look in and see your son). The violence involved indicates the energy in the psyche of the confrontation.
Re: "I know I don't want my son dead." - Jane Teresa has commented that any potentially precognitive dream should be interpreted as if it's symbolic for the dreamer in the first instance [if I've paraphrased that right, JT]. My supporting comment is to quote Doris Day - 'que sera sera', whatever will be, will be.
I hope that's an initial help (pending anyone else's ideas...)
It was nice of you to add "I love him very much" here. I loved my 'Cherub Boy' very much too.
Geoffo
Beth Richardson
17:43 20/09/2002
Hello Bobbe,
I can understand why you would feel really upset about this dream. But I am sure you can take comfort in Geoffo's words i.e. When we dream of people, they are in the dream usually to represent ourselves, or aspects of our psyche. Perhaps unexpressed, denied or undeveloped aspects.
The age can be the vital factor. It might be helpful if you asked yourself what happened when you were around 12 years of age.
Did you feel as if someone or something had shot you down, metaphorically speaking? Was it possible that, back then, for some reason you extinguished (killed off) something within yourself?
It may be something like self-confidence, trust, hope, playfulness. What qualities do you like, value, respect or admire, even if secretly, in your son. This may point to what you extinguished within yourself. You may need to work at resurrecting whatever was lost back then. This just might be the answer in your life right now.
Hope this helps, may your dream bring you enlightenment!
Jane Teresa Anderson
11:15 21/09/2002
Hi Bobbe,
Adding to all of this excellent advice:
You were drawn to notice the pillow over his head, the tongue and the eyes. The pillow suggests suffocation or hiding, the tongue is unable to speak and the bulging eyes remind me of someone holding back anger or something they wish to communicate so much that their eyes are bulging. Know what I mean? (Under pressure...)
Each of these symbols suggests that communication (?speaking out? expressing yourself?) may be the issue that has been - or is in danger of - being killed off.
