Hi Diana,
When we are ready for change, or in the process of integrating new changes into our lives, we often dream of unions or coming togethers of different kinds. Wddings fit this bill.
At the same time, when change is in the air we can only fully embrace the new (way of approaching life, new self) after letting go of the old. In dreams this process is often shown through death (of the old) and birth (of the new). Between the death and the birth is the integration (the new wholeness often represented by the wedding).
So, your black wedding dress could be seen as a mourning dress - death of the old that must first be experienced. (Black in dreams can also draw attention to the unconscious mind - that powerful part of you that you cannot see clearly - the part that is "in the dark".)
Your mother offered you her dress. Does your mother talk with you about the need to learn from the past and put it behind you? Or, could your mother do with letting go of previous ideals and moving on?
In the dream your parents accept that you do not wish to mourn (wear black) OR that you do not wish to proceed in an unclear frame of mind (in darkness, not knowing your mind). In a way, your dream says, "explore the options then". They give you a credit card - this is like "give yourself credit, then, to explore these options .." perhaps.
In the dream you ignore the shops on the left (in dreams the left is often your inner world) and go into the shops on the right (outer world). You choose a prom dress - prom is all about the "outer world" really, isn't it?
So your dream suggests that you may be ignoring the choices (shops are places of choice) available to you through exploring your inner world, instead looking towards the choices offered by the world out there.
The wedding does not take place, meaning that the processes you are going through are not yet complete.
You wear a red dress - could red be anger? Assertiveness? Life blood (vitality)?
Have a think about what 'red' and 'black' could represent in your life now, and about what you could do to explore these things (within your inner world) so that you can see your past more clearly, out to rest what needs to be put to rest - and move ahead in a new way.
There is a lot more to your dream, Diana. Others may add more insight and offer you more questions to contemplate to help you explore your dream.
Do get back to us, then we can take the dream further. Also other people visiting the Dream Forum love to see how a dream pans out for the dreamer.
Jane Teresa Anderson |
