Issue 56, April 2003
Soul Mate
©Jane Teresa Anderson, April 2003
Have you ever dreamed of meeting a soul mate?
A sense of magnetism in the eyes of a passing stranger, an enchanting voice calling to you from a forest or a passionate kiss from a mate you know extremely well, but only in dreams? Have you been tempted to search for that man or woman of your dreams in waking life?
Or has someone you know in waking life utterly surprised you in dream by turning out to be your perfect lover with the magical soul touch you had only ever ... dreamed of? Have you been tempted to follow your dream, drawn to cracking the surface of the person you thought you knew to touch that sleeping soul lover inside?
Perhaps you have dreamed of a reunion with an ex, only your dream ex reveals extraordinary qualities you never glimpsed in waking life. Have you been tempted to return to the ex, to reap the rewards of dream healing?
While some excellent relationships have been birthed and nourished in dreams, many people have searched without harvest for the partner they believe they have met on a soul level while asleep. Some have a mental checklist, fired by the indelible sensual memory of the dream, right down to hair colour, profession, scars and so on. Sadly such sole focus too easily blinds a person from seeing a perfect soul mate clothed in a different physical form.
So what do these soul mate dreams mean and why do they linger so powerfully and sensually?
The key, as always, is to consider all the people in your dreams as representing something about you - the way you think, your unconscious beliefs, personal issues, your attitudes and so on.
When you interact with someone in waking life, it helps to imagine that person holding a mirror. The image you get is more a reflection of your responses to them than to who they really are. You can learn a lot about yourself from the way you respond to other people. The same applies to people in your dreams. Think of them as holding up mirrors so that you can see yourself more clearly.
So far, so good, but how does this approach help you to understand soul mate dreams?
Your soul mate dreams bring you face to face with your own wonderful qualities, usually those you have denied or forgotten about. The person you are falling in love with is none other than yourself. In doing so, you become more whole.
This extract from my book Dream Alchemy may help:
"The day before the ugly duckling realised his mistaken identity he felt isolated, ugly and rejected. He watched the other ducklings as they grew into ducks that waddled and quacked with a common sense of purpose that did not come naturally to him. But the swans - oh, the swans. Now they were really something! Theirs was a totally wonderful beauty. They flew with such grace and peace. He was entranced, beguiled and felt an ache in his heart to be at one with them. He was, in the same moment, at one with them and yet a million miles distant.
The beautiful stranger in your dream is your swan-self, calling you to follow, meld and become a swan. The beautiful stranger is your natural amazing self, the light you keep in the shadow for fear of ... for fear of what? Why would you hide your inborn talents, wisdom and beauty away from the world?
This dream introduces you to your own inner beauty and implores you to cast off your ill-fitting cloak and shine your light in the world. The reason you feel as if you have known this beautiful dream stranger forever is that you have. He or she is you, always has been and always will be.
You might think that your beautiful dream stranger is your perfect soul mate appearing to you in your dream. You may spend eons searching for such perfection. You may discover your soul mate along the way to realising that the most beautiful relationships are those between people who are in touch with their whole swan-self. Get in touch by looking at your female dream stranger as your Yin or right-brain functions and your male dream stranger as your Yang or left-brain functions.
We are all swans, most of us living in a world requiring us to blend in and be ducks. Go on! Break the mould!"
(End of Dream Alchemy extract.)
Jane Teresa Anderson
PS
Dream Alchemy (rrp $19.95 Australian) is in all good bookshops.
Not in Australia? You can order your paperback copy from amazon.com or online direct from our Dream Network Shop.
Read more extracts from this book here.
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